I’m 34 year’s old and I love my man to death but ever since I opened up my own business
and it became extremely successful my boyfriend is showing me signs of jealousy.
I’m having problems understanding why though?
I try to cheer him up by paying for everything whenever we go places but he always come out of the blue and say something foul out his mouth to me.
It can’t be because I’m making lot’s of money and I’m leaving him out in the cold broke with no money in his pocket or nothing like that
because whatever my man ask me for he gets and most of the time I load him up with money before we leave out in the morning.
I love this man with all of my heart but it seems like my success is pulling our love apart sometimes.
I’m not sure if he doesn’t love me anymore or what’s really going on with him anymore these day’s.
But I try to talk with him about what’s bothering him and he says that I make him look small all the time with always buying him things that he’d rather save up his own money to get.
My response is so why did you tell me that you liked something if your not going to like it when I surprise you with it as a gift on your birthday.
He said that he always wanted a Rolex watch from John Bull and I got one for him when my business became successful
after 2 years of blood sweet and tears.
Sometimes he makes me so mad about his insecurities with my success that I be about to shutdown my business so that things can go back to normal with the two of us.
We had nothing and life was hard for the both of us he was more open with me back then unlike he is right now.
I wish that I could get him to talk to me again like he use to whenever something was eating at him but now days he just shut me out and don’t want to talk to me.
He down’s my business behind my back to his friends and family and little do he knows they tell me.
This is how I know that my fiance is jealous of me.
Ladies and gentlemen please tell me what else is there for a sista to do to keep the love of her life from abandoning her because of jealously?
Good afternoon Bahama Drama please keep me anonymously
Hey I’m 15 year’s old and I understand what the 16 year old girl is going through with her mom because I’m going through the same thing with my granny but you have to stand your ground if you want results girl because these old people they think that we are still living in they time but us children are way smarter than they was in they time Ijs. I been reading all the comments bout what y’all would have done to this girl if y’all was the parents like that chile some of y’all looking to die because I don’t let nobody put they hands on me my mother in the grave I will gook you up come around me joking about beat dis and dat all of y’all running on with. I have a boyfriend so what. That’s none of your problem. Chil my granny no I don’t play that mess chil. So I ga tell y’all now don’t send for me because you could get cus. And I am not trying to be disrespectful to nobody I just saying the girl need to stand her ground that’s what I is do when people start running on. I hope you take my advice girl. Live your life here.
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My grandma would say you smelling your ass if you said anything back while she was talking to you except that which she wanted to hear. You kids don’t know how good you have it.
Tonight while I was picking up a few items from Super Value in golden Gates plaza; as I walked towards the eggs isle I began to notice 2 guys holding the hands of the another guy.
At first I thought that they were playing until the guy that they was holding hands started fighting the 2 men
then I knew it was real. So me being the punk that I’ve always been
I see people going through it I melt like ice cream on a hot day.
I leave my stuff to find out what’s the problem hoping that I could probably solve the problem
without this issue going anymore out of hand.
So I asked the 2 men who were trying to reason with the guy as they were holding his arm’s what’s going on.
(I’m nosey aye?)
They said that the man was trying to steal $110 dollar’s or more of expensive foods.
As they told me they still was trying to reason with the guy but the guy was acting like a complete ass I must say as he was a grown ass man
So despite of this I asked how much is the total of all items I would pay for them just could you let him go?
Now keep in mind I only came to the store for 2 cans of cornbeef and bread and 1 dozen of eggs so I really didn’t come for this BS.
The worker’s ask did I know the man and I said yes he’s black right!
So yes I know him but I know despite his color I know that I would of help anyone who is in distress if I can but
The staff caught me off guard with the question as all eyes were on me as the question was ask.
MAN I HAD TO SAY SOMETHING TO GET ALL THESE EYEBALLS OFF OF ME! IT WAS VERY UNCOMFORTABLE FOR ME
I HAD TO SAY SOMETHING THEY ALL KILLING ME WITH THE EYES, I DON’T LIKE IT I’M NOT USED TO A BUNCH OF BLACK PEOPLE’S LOOKING AT ME ALL AT THE SAME TIME DAMN IT! IT’S SPOOKY!
I HAD TO GET THE HEAT OFF ME, BUT THEY ALL LAUGHT AT ME.
But I swear I’ll never do that shit again because I didn’t like the feeling of everybody looking at me all at once.
So next time I’m not helping nobody because y’all is be looking at people strange!
That was my night that’s why I didn’t post anyone’s story today. ->
(FAKE EXCUSE BUT TRYING IT ANYWAY!)
But anyway the employee told me that the matter had gone to far because homeboy was fighting the staff and police had already arrived.
I pleaded one more time on the man’s behalf but I got a sorry it’s in the police hands now.
But I must say the staff at Super Value really kept their behavior civilized and professional even as the man started to throwing punches
at the young guys who would usually eat your lunch on this road
these young guys restrained themselves well.
It turns out the guy wasn’t stealing to eat; he was stealing to sell off the very expensive item’s on the streets.
I brought my 2 cans of cornbeef and bread eggs and was done. That’s my monthly grocery amount because I can’t afford more then that unless someone needs food and I know it.
You know there are a lot of people in our country need our help in feeding themselves and most of the time their families.
Next time If your at the cashier and notice somebody short of money for their items help them
rather you can afford it or not.
You might even have to put some of your stuff back, but do it anyway, help that stranger because you know why?
I mean no matter what I do this man always finding faults with me.
I’m not working right now but when I was I always paid my share of the bills and this man still would find something to argue about with me.
And worst off he is cheat on me with other girls and I don’t say anything because he’s just going to deny it anyway so I just try and keep my mouth closed.
Because whenever he gets real mad at me he would punch me in my face like I is a man and in the back of my head.
I feel like he have a lot of things on his mind that’s why he is fight me sometimes.
That’s why I really don’t try and call the police to get them in it
but I think one day he might kill me by knocking me some place and kill me because I’m very small and I is bruise easily.
I don’t want people to think that I’m complaining about my boyfriend or nothing
I’m just trying to understand why would a man still cheat on a woman that do everything for him and is be there for him when he is be going through things.
But 4 years ago I did have someone in my life but they didn’t meet my expectations fully after 2 years of dating him.
He was to reserve and kept to himself all of the time reading these big computer programming books
trying to sell me this big dream that one day he will build some program that would make him rich
I never took him seriously when he talked like this as a matter of fact
most of the time I would cut him off by interrupting him in the act of telling me more about his dreams
Another thing is he just never seemed to be able to catch up to the standard of living and lifestyles
of other men that were always trying to win me over from him with their nice cars houses and beautiful apartments
that I would sometimes be on someone’s plate for the day as I duck my job to be with the guys that really had my attention.
My boyfriend had an old broke down car that made lots of noises and smoked like a train when it was in action on the road.
He couldn’t find a job for a year one time because really most companies would email him back stating that my boyfriend was overqualified for the positions.
So you can see he was also broke most of the time.
My family said that he was just a complete loser and from what I could see he sure was.
I mean he didn’t wear any kind name brand clothes or shoes like the successful men did that I creamed in my underwear
with the thought of how we did it on their tables floors beds car backseats and hotel room’s.
I must admit I was loose like a goose and funky like a monkey for fine ass niggas.
I would often hold out on sex with him because he really was an eyesore the whole time.
I was always looking outside of our relationship for some Prince Charming to sweep me off of my feet
away from my current nerdy bumb boyfriend.
And one day it actually happened.
I finally found the guy who had the money the car the house and looks my family loved my new choice
and they all ran up talks with him loving how cool he was and much better for me then what I currently have.
So me and this new guy decided to be a couple so I told my old boyfriend that it was over and left his heart on the ground
I really wasn’t checking for him at all or how he felt.
That’s been 4 years ago and 7 months after the new guy got tired of fucking me
he found someone else that was prettier than me more sexier than me and really had her shit together financially.
But he didn’t let me go immediately first he beat my ass a few times for what would have been overlooked by my X.
He made me feel so low before breaking up with me totally.
He sometimes would let his boys in the room while we were making out and he would tell me to do it with them for him if I really loved him.
He did this so much that I stop going by his house and eventually I knew that it was over.
I saw my X a couple of times over the year’s and he’s now married to one white bitch that looks like an American or something.
These white women always taking our good black men from us.
But anyway I must say he did look good in his clothes and his shoes was on point to.
I heard one of his friends say that he now works for one of the banks downtown as software developer for them.
WOW!
I still remember a little of what he tried to teach me though like int var and String means in programming because he wanted to teach it to me also
I really don’t know how I let the perfect man get away from me
because when I think back on my nerd boyfriend he actually loved me. He wasn’t perfect but he was true.
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Never underestimate anybody’s potential because God has the last say.
Good Morning Bahama Drama please keep me anonymous
After all that we’ve been through my brother and me from losing both of our parents at a young age due to sickness he would still try and do something like this to me.
When we lost our parents when we were young growing up we always swore to be there for one another no matter what.
Together growing up in all of the hardship times we’ve been through living with different family members
until they was tired of us throughout our teenage year’s we house hopped starting from family members on our mother’s side of the family
to family members on our fathers side of the family.
No matter which side of the family tree we went on we we’re always the black sheep of the family with both sides.
Me and my brother both worked very hard to finnish school and eventually college with him dropping out to go run with his friends.
I was always more focused on making my mother and father proud of me if they were ever looking down over my life.
I attended church whenever there was a service and I sang in the church choir much because when I sung
I sung for God to look over my mother and father in heaven.
Every time I would sing I would cry because I could see my parents faces in my mind and feel their love inside of my heart. It was like they were apart of me. A part that never dies.
I always checked up on my brother throughout the day because I new that some people in our country would probably try to hurt my little brother because of his lifestyle being openly gay.
I worked hard after finishing up my degree in nursing and became a registered nurse working at PMH.
I worked long hours each day my brother never seemed to have the ability to keep a job long enough to help me out with the bills but I was never bothered by it because Lord I love my brother.
Last year me and my boyfriend became husband and wife after dating for 8 months my brother stood in the wedding as he wanted to be my maid of honor and I had to gently tell him no the first few times, and then forcefully tell him no way
because he actually wanted to stand in drag in my wedding and I am a God fearing woman and that’s clearly out of order to me.
This is when me and my brothers relationship starting going down hill very fast. I’ve always supported my brother fully in all of his endeavors or life choices but my wedding was sacred to God and me and my husband.
So I moved in with my husband and let my brother and his new boyfriend have our old apartment.
I thought that he would soften up on me once I gave him the apartment and 5 months rent plus some food money but my brother never even said thank you sister or anything
but asked me was I taking the front room TV?
I told him no you can have it if you want. Even though I did plan on taking it but as he asked about it I couldn’t help myself but to give it to him.
A few months later as I’m still trying to keep track on my brother making sure he’s alright and have money I started to notice that he stopped answering my calls
and once I called him and he answered the called just to let me hear him having sex with another man in the background.
I hung up the phone and started crying because my little brother was still upset with me and I wanted him to not be so upset with me because I love him need his love back. His my baby brother.
My husband came into the bedroom on hearing me crying asking me what’s wrong and I told him what my brother had done
but he seemed more turned on by the idea of brother getting jammed by another man than he did in his attempt to console me with what my brother had just done to me.
I was even more upset and now confused. So I went into the bathroom got on my knees and started to call down the holy spirit for strength and guidance and I started to speak in tongues for the first time ever.
The Lord was upon me strong. When I came out of the bathroom my husband had left the house and his jeep was no longer outside.
I just read my bible for a little while took a shower and then a small nape before my work shift.
3 weeks pass and I prepare for work as I normally would pray shower nape, pray again and head to work.
I went to work that evening still covered in the blood of the lamb who was slain but now live’s forever more.
But when I went to work that evening something inside me just kept on aggregating to leave work after I had only been into work for 4 hour’s.
I finally gave into the urge to go home early from work. But when I got home my brothers car was parked behind my husband’s car.
So I’m thinking like what my brother is doing to my house this late did he get in a fight with someone or did someone hurt him because my brother is supposed to be mad at me
and he don’t just pop up like this what’s happened!
I rushed inside to find my brother in my bed giving some guy a blow job in my bed. I screamed at my brother asking him what the F* word he’s doing in my got damn bed with God’s knows who in my house?
My husband came breaking out of the bathroom acking surprised but I could see that lust demon in his face from a mile away.
I told them all to leave including my husband which tried to calm me down but I wasn’t going to excuse what I just walked into for nothing that he was saying.
I told them I’m calling the police and I did. By the time the police came they all were gone including my husband’s jeep. I told the woman officer who had arrived first an older woman as I was still crying
and to my surprise she told me that these kinds of things are a normal thing in Nassau.
I haven’t spoken to my little brother since because he will not answer my calls. I hope that he’s okay and nobody’s hurting him still
because he has been through a lot growing up without our parents and I still need my brother’s love; he’s once again all that I’ve got. Lord I still crying writing this.
Please can anybody tell me how do I make my brother forgive me for how unchristain like I must have carried on with him.
And if he’s reading this post on Facebook; remember little brother we said that we would always be there for each other no matter what.
And now I’m in this house crying by myself and you not here like you said that you’ll always be. You broke your promise lil brother.
CRYING.
